Back-to-School Blues: Recognizing Anxiety & Depression in Kids — and How to Help
Backpacks? Check. Pencils? Check. A nervous knot in your child’s stomach the size of a cantaloupe? Unfortunately… also check.
Heading back to school can be exciting, but for many kids, it stirs up anxiety, self-doubt, and, in some cases, depression. And unlike that mystery smell that’s been living in the bottom of last year’s lunchbox (don’t ask), emotional challenges aren’t always obvious at first glance.
As parents, we can’t remove every bump in the road, but we can help our kids navigate it with confidence, healthy coping skills, and the right nutrition to keep their brains sharp and moods steady.
Spotting the Signs: When Back-to-School Worries Go Beyond “First-Day Jitters”
Some kids tell you flat-out, “I don’t want to go to school.” Others show it in sneakier ways. Here’s what to watch for:
Mood changes: Irritability, tearfulness, or withdrawing from friends and activities they used to enjoy.
Physical symptoms: Frequent stomachaches, headaches, trouble sleeping, or loss of appetite.
School-specific red flags: Declining grades, repeated trips to the nurse’s office, or refusing to attend.
Tip: When in doubt, keep the conversation open-ended. Instead of “Are you okay?” (which usually gets a “fine”), try “How are you feeling about school these days?” and then… listen without jumping in to fix it.
Emotional First Aid for Kids
You can’t bubble-wrap your child (tempting as it is), but you can give them emotional tools to weather the ups and downs:
Create a safe landing spot: Let them talk without judgment or interruptions.
Normalize feelings: Nervousness, sadness, and even frustration are normal human emotions. They’re not “bad” — they’re just signals.
Practice social scenarios: Role-play how to start a conversation, ask for help, or handle teasing.
Keep healthy habits in place: Adequate sleep, daily movement, and balanced meals are game-changers for mood and focus.
Food for the Mind: Fueling Emotional Resilience
Here’s the truth: a child’s brain is a high-performance machine — and like any engine, it needs the right fuel. Skipping breakfast or eating sugar-heavy meals can send mood and focus on a rollercoaster ride.
Fast, Brain-Boosting Breakfasts
Overnight oats with berries, chia seeds, and almond butter for lasting energy and brain-boosting omega-3s. (Click to learn more about Omega's)
Egg muffins loaded with spinach and peppers — make ahead and reheat in seconds.
Greek yogurt parfait layered with granola, flaxseed, and fresh fruit.
Whole grain toast topped with avocado and hard-boiled eggs for a healthy fat + protein combo.
Whole Food supplementation can help ensure your child is getting the nutrition they need to thrive every day.
Mood-Supporting Lunchbox Ideas
Whole grain wrap with turkey, spinach, and hummus.
Apple slices with nut butter for fiber + healthy fats.
Mini bento box: cheese cubes, cucumber slices, whole grain crackers, and grapes.
DIY trail mix: almonds, walnuts, pumpkin seeds, and a sprinkle of dark chocolate chips.
Helping Kids Handle Social Stress
Friendships and peer pressure can feel like a high-wire act for kids. You can help by:
Encouraging them to find their people — even one close friend can make school feel safe.
Teaching quick stress resets like deep breathing, stretching, or walking it off.
Reminding them that friendship groups shift — it’s normal and doesn’t mean something is wrong with them.
Keeping a good relationship with teachers and counselors so you’re in the loop if concerns arise.
Final Thought
Back-to-school season isn’t just about crisp notebooks and fresh sneakers — it’s about preparing our kids inside and out. By tuning into their feelings, offering steady emotional support, and feeding their bodies with brain-loving foods, we set them up for a year of growth, confidence, and maybe even joy in algebra (hey, miracles happen).
And remember — you don’t have to do it perfectly. Your kids don’t need perfection; they need connection, encouragement, and a parent who shows up (coffee in hand, hair in a bun, still cheering them on).
If you’d like some extra support figuring out how to fuel your child’s body and calm their mind this school year, let’s set up a time to chat. We can create a simple, personalized plan that works for your family — and your mornings. Book a time now!
With vitality & joy,
Terry
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